Behind The Quill

10 Ways to Pivot in Your Life (so You Can Really Start Creating it)

April 13, 2020

As an online business owner, when I hear the word “pivot” my mind instinctually starts to think of the ways in which I could…

Pivot my offers…

Pivot my content…

Pivot my niche…

…To best suit the needs and wants of my peoples…To create the biggest impact in their lives. 

But, in crazy times like these, more than ever, it has become abundantly clear to me that the pivots that are required to live and create the life of my dreams go far beyond the framework of my business.

And, honestly, when I really think about it, the most powerful pivots I have ever made in my life, have been the ones that have taken place in my own heart and mind.

The ones that required me to make a decision about how I was going to show up in my life. 

So, if you’re finding yourself feeling a little stagnant in your business, in your life, right now (I feel you), take a step back and decide where it REALLY is that you can pivot your energy, your perspective. 

Because, girl, YOU are your most important asset and YOU have the power to create your life…one way or another. YOU get to decide who you are and where you want to go…and then to…you know…show up as her.

When I find myself feeling meh and stagnant in my own life, I know it is because I need to pivot in one (or many) of these 10 areas:

1. PIVOT THE WAY YOU VIEW + DEFINE SUCCESS

YOU CREATE YOUR DEFINITION OF SUCCESS, DUDETTE.

So, take a step back. 

What do you truly value? What do you need more of to feel fully jazzed about your life? To feel happy, accomplished, fulfilled.

Maybe it’s financial freedom. 

Maybe it’s more time for yourself. 

Maybe it’s having a porch to have quiet morning coffees with yourself. 

Maybe it’s more time with your family. 

Maybe it’s building a family to spend time with. 

Whatever it is…take a look at your life. Is what you’re spending your time doing aligned with what you REALLY value? 

Are you living your life by the terms of someone else’s definition of success or your own?

Ok…now what are you going to do about it? How can you pivot your actions, your priorities, your energy to suit YOUR definition of success? 

Maybe, after taking a step back, you’ve realized the life you are living, this very moment, is in fact, the epitome of success to you. 

Maybe you can take a moment to appreciate and love yourself for that.

2. PIVOT YOUR HEALTH

There is no one way to do ANYTHING. And, there is no area within which this rings truer than within your own health. 

While you should certainly educate yourself, you know your body and mind better than anyone. 

If you are feeling stuck right now, pivoting into a movement and nutrition routine that lights you up could be an amazing place to start. It could be the trigger to you getting your mind feeling right. 

No pressure – only love for yourself, only gratitude for all that they do for you.

Set out with a desire to simply fuel that beautiful body and brain of yours.

Fact is, a healthier you leads to a more confident you, a more energetic you. 

And, that leads to you showing up more fully as you in your business, in your life.

3. PIVOT THE WAY YOU LOVE YOURSELF 

Pivot the way you love your body, your mind, all of it, through it all. 

You’ve heard it before and I’m going to say it again, “self-care” goes far beyond bubble baths + foot massages. It is about feeding your mind and body the thoughts + emotions it needs to thrive. 

That looks like self-compassion, growth, and self-love. 

It looks like CHOOSING to feel love for yourself. 

It looks like DECIDING how you want to view yourself. The type of person you CHOOSE to be. 

So, can you pivot the way you look at yourself in hard times? When things just aren’t going your way?

Can you pretty please cut yourself some loving slack?

Tip: Take note of 5 things you do every day that you love yourself for doing. And, then take 5 minutes to really sit in that feeling of self-gratitude.

4. PIVOT WHAT + WHY YOU CELEBRATE

There is no need to hit a giant goal to celebrate yourself + your life. 

Choose to celebrate the little things, right alongside your big wins. 

Because the fact is, there are oh so many things to celebrate. 

*Q pump up jams* ( In my case, The Greatest Showman Soundtrack) and celebrate you taking the time to read a blog post about the ways you can pivot in your life. You’re crushing it, girl. 

Not to mention, people, your people, want to see you celebrating your amazingness. The impact of you doing so will, in turn, inspire them to do the same in their own lives.

And, that right there, is what it’s all about isn’t it?

5. PIVOT THE WAY YOU VIEW PRODUCTIVITY, THE WAY YOU VIEW TIME

Being productive is worn as a badge of honour these days. I know I am certainly guilty of it. 

But, it’s important that you check in with yourself and assess your intentions behind the “productive” things you are doing. 

Again, is it bringing value to your life? To the areas you TRULY value? 

Or, is it simply to stay busy? To earn that badge of honour?

Being productive at the expense of being content in your life, is definitely not worth it. Been there done that. 

We will all have busy moments, but take the time to acknowledge the moment. To decide there is no rush. To slow things down and really set an intention behind each thing on your to-do list.

To take a minute to celebrate the wins, to pet the puppy, to read the book.

And, repeat after me: “There is always enough time for all the things I need and want to do.”

6. PIVOT WHO YOU ALLOW INTO YOUR BUBBLE

You are a magical unicorn of love and delight, just as you are. 

Trust that those that see that will remain by your side when the going gets tough (or, when you choose to pivot in your life). 

Trust that those that don’t, aren’t meant to. 

Who you surround yourself with has a tremendous impact on your motivation, your well-being, and on your general happiness. 

So, are you surrounding yourself with people that inspire you, that support you, that push you to be all of you (even if only digitally)?

7. PIVOT INTO POSITIVITY

Embrace positivity and leave negativity at the door. Easier said than done, I get it. 

Ok, let me rephrase…

Make the effort to see the positive side of a situation, to embrace optimism. 

Believe me, choosing to see the positive side of any situation is actually the more difficult thing to do, not the naive thing to do. 

When you begin to see the light in every situation, I promise, you, in turn, will feel lighter. And, that light, my dear, is contagious. 

And, if that just isn’t an option right now, I feel you, but try your best to CHOOSE to not allow yourself to stay stuck there. Sit in it for a minute and then DECIDE that’s not how you want to live. 

Or, see #6.

8. PIVOT HOW YOU VIEW YOUR OWN HAPPINESS

It’s easy to put our own happiness on the back burner when we have clients we adore, a family we want to care for, and a world that has a heck of a lot to deal with right now. 

But, choosing to see your happiness as a non-negotiable, not an afterthought to that of your clients, your family, your business, is the most powerful thing you can do. 

Because a happier you means you are more willing and able to support those around you. 

A happier you means a happier world.

“Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, have better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people, while unhappy people are more often withdrawn, defensive, antagonistic, and self-absorbed. Oscar Wilde observed, “One is not always happy when one is good; but one is always good when one is happy.”

— GRETCHEN RUBIN, THE HAPPINESS PROJECT

9. PIVOT THE WAY YOU VIEW + RECEIVE SUPPORT

Whether it is in the way you embrace support being offered or in the way you give support, choosing to be open and welcoming to both creates an amazing opportunity for community growth, for connection. 

And, dude, we could all use a little connection right now.

It is so easy to fall into the vortex of feeling like we need to do it all ourselves, but the fact is, there are endless resources and people out there just waiting to help you live your life to the absolute freaking fullest.

And, there are endless amounts of people in your own life and throughout the world that could really use some support in return.

Let me tell ya, I’m sure which is better for the heart, mind, and soul.

10. PIVOT INTO BEING EXACTLY WHO YOU WANT TO BE

And, most important of all you need to pivot into saying goodbye to the should, would, and could BS and just own all that you are and all that you want to be. 

Pivot into Just Doing You, Dude. 

Because she’s a badass. 

Remember, life is yours to create, so write the story of your damn dreams.