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Essays, unsolicited advice, brand voice breakdowns, internet-word feelings, and dispatches from the part of my brain that turns every casual “oh that’s kinda cool” thought into A Whole Thing.

May 19, 2026
People spend on average about 43.56% of their time writing or thinking about writing for their business.
Okay, I made that up. But I had you going for a second, didn’t I?

May 19, 2026
So this is the one where we talk shit about frameworks, formulas, and best practices.
They’re inherently bad. But I’ve also got beef with what these things turn into when we stop questioning them.

May 19, 2026
Today, we’re gonna talk about messaging. Because you really cant talk about voice without talking about messaging at least a little bit. And, just like voice can feel like this concept, messaging can feel hella confusing when you’re trying to figure it out for yourself. If you’ve ever tried to get your messaging together, you […]
May 19, 2026
Today we’re talking about one of the most well-meaning, commonly used bits of brand voice advice. It’s an exercise that we’ve probably all done. But it’s really kinda…not that helpful in the grand scheme of things. And that exercise is: “Pick three adjectives that describe your voice.” We’ve all done it. Maybe you even picked […]
May 18, 2026
If you’re a business owner in the online space — or really, any space — I can almost guarantee that at one point in your brand’s existence, you downloaded a workbook titled something like “Find Your Brand Voice in Five Easy Steps” or “Brand Voice Clarity Workbook” or “The Ultimate Guide to Sounding Like Yourself™.” […]
May 18, 2026
If we haven’t met — hi. I’m Steph. But my friends call me Laffy, so you can call me Laffy. Before we get into the fun brand voice stuff, here’s what you should probably know about me: I’m certified brand voice builder, messaging strategist, and creative copywriter. I’ve been doing this whole brand voice and […]

March 3, 2022
Let’s debunk a popular myth right off the bat: You don’t always have to be consistent to be successful. Now, take a deep breath and let that sink in. This might be a hard pill to swallow, especially if you’ve been riding the wave of consistency propaganda. The Unspoken Truth About My Battle with Consistency: […]

March 3, 2022
The Tale Of The Lost Idea I want you to reflect for a second… Just a quick second, I promise – there are no 10-minute visualization exercises or journal prompts coming your way. I want you to reflect back on how many times in the last 6 months, hell 3 weeks, that you’ve had an […]

November 4, 2021
We’ve All Lived Moments We Regret We’ve lived through bad relationships. Made bad decisions. Done dumb things with questionable people. I sure have. Wanna know what I learned from every single one of those regretful moments? Those stories that randomly pop into your head when you’re trying to fall asleep? You know the ones. 1. Spin […]
Her thing is finding what’s already there. The patterns, instincts, opinions, stories, phrases, and weird little tells hiding in the way you already think, speak, write, and work as a brand and/or human, so you can show up with confidence, build a brand world, and draw in the right kinda crowd.
So, did it work? Did she sound fancy?
No?
K, cool.
Hope you come hang out anyway.
Apparently, writing in third person is supposed to make you sound fancy.
*clears throat*
TL;DR?
Steph Laffy is a brand voice + personality strategist, writer, and real-life former bartender helping founders, service providers, and creative small-but-mighty teams find the voice, message, and point of view that makes their brand one-of-one (as the marketers like to say).
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